Bondage:
Restriction Leads to Freedom

Bondage can be a restriction, yes — and, it can be comforting containment. Anyone who has been swaddled, or tucked in tight to a bed, knows how being contained can feel protective and safe.

While we are playing with the hard skills of using rope, cuffs, metal, and physical restraints for erotic pleasure, we’re also playing with some psychology in this unit.

What does it mean to be restricted? Why does it feel so freeing to be bound, unable to move? What types of bondage materials are you particularly drawn to? Are there any reasons behind that, or is it ‘just because?’ Do you want to play with more bondage than you have in the past? Less? Do you want to learn fancy rope ties, or go for easy leather cuffs that clasp together with a hook?

Bondage Materials

There are some very exciting teachings in the Bondage unit for you!

  • Watch Shay’s video on Bondage Safety for Tops
  • Read “Tart Cherry,” an erotic story by Kathleen Delaney-Adams
  • Watch Lee Harrington’s video on “10 Things I Wish I Knew as a Bondage Bottom”
  • Watch Madison Young’s video on bondage fetishism and how to prepare for a rope scene
  • Read “Self Bondage,” an essay by david stein
  • Watch Sinclair & rife’s demo of a simple bondage tie
  • Do journal prompts on all the materials

And homework — conduct your own bondage experiment!