What kind of submissive are you?
Slave, submissive, service-oriented, bottom, kinky masochist, obedient little pet—what kind of s-type are YOU? “S-type” is a broad umbrella term for the submissive side of the power dynamic. These identities are multi-faceted—complex and nuanced, and don’t fit into any one little teeny box. However, there are some similarities, too—and I’m interested in the places we overlap, the things we share and have in common, as well as our differences.
The Classic Submissive
You clock in as a classic submissive. You like giving over to your Dominant’s will, not just submitting to a Top’s sensation. You have a few boundaries and limits to what you will or won’t do, but you are eager to do what it takes to please and pleasure the one to whom you submit. You may love pain, or love to give service, or adore sex, but your desire for giving over is what drives you the strongest.
To learn more about your classic self and take a deeper dive into all of your submissive tendencies, join the Submissive Playground
e-course and community for creative, sexy explorations.
Alfred from Batman. Mr. Carson from Downton Abbey. Lurch from the Addam’s Family. Riff-Raff from the Rocky Horror Picture Show. These (and other) butlers are like to be your service icons. You are a service-oriented submissive, through and through. You like show your love and affection by keeping up with the chores, making sure your Dominant’s favorite hot morning beverages are always perfectly made, and anticipating their next desire—sometimes even before they do. You have likely been working on this skill of giving service with all kinds of people in your life for many years, not just in your intimate, romantic, or sexual relationships.
The Submissive Playground course
has an entire unit on practicing service, and while you’re clearly already a pro at it, the Playground will give you a place to hone your skills, and to branch out into other realms of submission, and make sure your extraordinary service skills are being placed in the right hands. Join the Submissive Playground course
to learn more about your s-type!
You sweet thing! You might be a puppy or a kitty, or you might be a full grown cat or dog, or you might be really into pony play. Or perhaps you don’t have such a present animal familiar, but instead you tap in to you at other ages or stages, and you are a boy or a girl who craves the kinky, consensual kind of parental attention, care, and play. The thing these all have in common is role play—tapping in to a strong deep part of yourself and letting it out through scene parameters—and ownership, where you are attached to your owner or daddy or mommy who protects you and nurtures you (and also might sometimes play with you in dirty kinky scenes).
The experiments around discipline, service, masochism, and bondage in the Submissive Playground course
would serve you—and your owner, present or future—well. You’ll also learn a ton more about your own role in community.
Not an S type!
You’re not submissive, a slave, a bottom, service-oriented, a slut, or a naughty minx—you much prefer to be in charge or in an egalitarian relationship. Or perhaps you’re a mix of all kinds of things, a switch, or something else, but for whatever reason, right now you are testing as not an s-type at all. But hey, you took this quiz, so probably you have a little bit of curiosity around receiving, bottoming, submitting, and service.
Why don’t you sign up for the Submissive Playground course
and let your inner submissive come out to play? Or, hey, send your submissive and have fun doing the sexy homework together!
the Kinky Fuck
You are clearly a kinky masochist. Though submissive s-types like psychological play, and slave s-types seek to be owned and controlled in addition to psychologically submit to another’s will, kinky bottoms like you are driven by the love to receive sensation. You might love pain, you might love service, you might love sex—but primarily you like to receive. Bold, stingy, thuddy, feathery, light, soft, big, biting—you might have preferences, but it’s clear that you like it all more than most.
Are you ready to expand deeper into the realms of psychological submission, and play deeper with giving up power? Sign up for the Submissive Playground course
and you’ll have lots of opportunities to expand your palette and learn more about your masochism, including tricks for increasing your pain tolerance.
Slut by day, Slut by night
You’re a slut. You like sex—and when I say you like sex, I mean you REALLY like sex. Giving, receiving, topping, bottoming, serving, whatever—you are happy as long as you’re getting your rocks off. Service, humiliation, pain—you may be into those things, but those aren’t the main course for you. The sexual play, attention, and pleasure is what matters most for you.
Curious to know more about your type? If you want to develop more of your service skills, kink knowledge, and expand your palette of sexual adventures, come sign up for the Submissive Playground
and take your sluttery to new places.
You are a bottom. You have your own strength and power in your day to day life, but you love rough sex, from BDSM masochism to scrappy deep fucking. You don’t tend to want to psychologically give over to another’s will, but you will do what your scene top says to do, and take what they dish out, and you will like it. You might love spanking, sex toys, provocative outfits—but mostly you want that rush of giving over in safe, contained ways that make you feel strong, capable, and fierce.
Learn more about the psychological aspects of submission, like service and internal discipline, through the Submissive Playground course
. Find not only community there, but also tricks on how to take (and get!) more play.
Naughty, naughty, naughty!
You love to entice. Teasing, testing limits, pushing boundaries, cajoling, begging, breaking rules—you love to see exactly how far you can go, and you love to be punished. But it’s not really punishment—“funishment” is the name of the game to get you to take a lot of physical sensation play. Sometimes, people call you a “brat,” but that’s because your naughty tendencies are misunderstood as disrespectful, when in fact they are part of how you like to keep things interesting. You love to push your top’s buttons, and they love you all the more for it.
Naughty minxes like you are a challenge for Dominants and Tops sometimes—come sign up for the Submissive Playground course
to hone your naughty skills, and find the d-types that are the best match for you.
It’s not just a BDSM cliche—some of us, like you, are actual consensual slaves. You want to give over access to your entire self: body, time, will, and more. Though you may love to receive sensation, give good service, and submit psychologically, you also get off the very most by being owned, controlled, and possessed. Your deepest pleasure derives from someone else taking their deepest pleasure from encounters with you, and everything else is just icing on the cake. You love to be asked to do things that are not for your pleasure, just so you can have a chance to exercise your own devotion to your path as a slave.
Want to meet other slaves and learn more about your s-type? Join the Submissive Playground course
—you can play with many aspects of a slave’s path and fine-tune your submissive toolkit while you’re practicing all of your skills.
My favorite kind of sex is …
At a play party, I’d most like to be …
When I’m told what to do, I …
Receiving sexual stimulation is…
Doing tasks for another person is…
The thought of being owned by another person makes me…
My favorite position is …
The very best thing my Dominant could tell me is…
Being with a sadist makes me feel…
My favorite fantasy (of these) is…
If my Dominant told me to not orgasm for a week, I would…
If I had to give up one part of my sex life, it would be…