Andrea identifies three reasons it’s difficult to receive service: a) Pride of self-sufficiency, b) Fear of becoming incompetent, c) Fear of the bottom thinking it’s wacky or burdensome, or of disobedience. Do any of those resonate with you? Which feel the most relevant?
Does a formal or informal management style appeal to you? Which do you have experience with? Would you prefer a strict dominant who is very controlling with strong preferences, or one who is more laid back? How can you screen for that?
What kind of dominant do you want to be to another person? What kind of dominant are you to yourself? If you are submissive (and in a D/s relationship), what kind of dominant do you have right now?
Andrea identifies a few different forms of reward for performing a task: petting, cuddling, talking about it; a thank you and a smile; just the knowledge that your service was good. Which is appealing? Which come naturally to you, and which do you think your submissive would like?
Imagine you just labored on a beautiful dinner all day. What’s your ideal reaction from your Dominant?
Lots of specific feedback - “This is my favorite dish, this was better last time you made it, did you add a new spice? I loved it when you …”Eating it all pleasurably and burpingExpressions of gratitude- “Thank you so much, I really appreciate it!”Granting you a special privilegeCooking you dinner the next nightBragging about your good service on Facebook, Fetlife, or to friends
What other kinds of feedback do you like receiving, or giving?
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